Why are you so skinny?

This isn't the typical type of post from me today, It's a somewhat controversial post, that I hope plenty of you can sink your teeth into (do not bite too hard, this is not a debate).
I also want to say that I am in no way looking for attention and I don't want any of you reading this too roll your eyes and think "shut up, you're so lucky you are so skinny"

I am writing this post because recently I have had a few comments about my weight and also I have found that my weight can actually make people view me as fragile and weak and not as strong and can actually stop me from doing things I am perfectly capable of doing! That REALLY grinds my gears.

I'd like to point out, I in no way, shape, or form have ever had an eating disorder. Those of you who know me, will know I eat whenever I like and whatever I like.  Pizzas, Burgers, Chips, Mcdonalds, Fizzy drinks. I eat no less than the average girl...yet why am I so incredibly skinny? The answer here is simply "Metabolism". My metabolism is what I'd like to call "super metabolism". For those of you who don't know what metabolism is, it's basically a chemical reaction that happens in all your living organisms to help maintain life, in non scientific forms, the rate at which your body burns calories and breaks down fat. Having a high metabolism means that it is impossible for me to put on weight, and maintain it. My body breaks down fat and burns calories at a stupidly fast rate. Now I know for a fact, that many of you will be reading this thinking "Shut up Bethany, I'd absolutely LOVE to have a high metabolism"..but let me tell you, it's not all it's cracked up to be.

You always hear about larger people going through a tough time trying to lose weight, slim people can go through just as much of a tough time trying to put it on, but nobody ever really thinks of that.

"Are you anorexic", "you need to put some weight on", "You are a bag of bones", "why are you so boney", "why are you so skinny", "get some meat on your bones", "are you okay?"

All this you would kind of expect from curious school children, but what astonishes me, is that people still ask me these things. People I  know.Would you say these things to someone who was noticeably larger than the average person?

"Are you obese", "you need to loose weight", "you are a big bag of fat", "why are you so fat" "you need to get some meat off those bones" "are you..okay?"

No. You just wouldn't ask those questions would you. So why is it acceptable to ask a skinny person questions of the same criteria? Do you think it doesn't affect them in the same way it would someone who was fat?

 I wish I could be a little bigger, but I have the joy of being able to scoff a whole tub of ben and jerrys and not have to worry. Trust me though, my skin and organs probabaly do not appreciate this, and I'm very unhealthy. You won't ever catch me eating a bowl of salad or nuts & raisins. I am almost sure my metabolism will not stay this way forever, it will all catch up with me, and then my decade of eating rubbish food will probabaly result in me waking up and being 10x bigger.

I recently got upset by someone by them saying "Bethany, you are SO skinny". For a start...how the hell do you even respond to something like that? I think I just stood with my mouth open, wondering what on earth made it okay to say something like that? What was going on in this persons mind? Would this person have said the same thing to a fat person? Nope. Because calling someone fat is seen as an insult, but calling someone out to be too skinny...is apparently acceptable? I think commenting on anybodies weight is unnaceptable. Who are you to judge someone by the size of them?

It's really not fair. Nobody ever takes into account genes, metabolism, bone structure, medical problems. There are thousands or reasons people are how they are, and why people are the size they are.

So, is calling someone skinny really acceptable? Or, do you agree with me that it's just as insensitive as calling someone fat? As as naturally skinny person, I can tell you that it's not very nice being called out for being "too skinny." It's a bit of a touchy subject but one I wanted to address.

Moral of the story here though, is that I don't really think it's ever acceptable to comment on anybody's weight, skinny or fat. Why should you ever be allowed an opinion on someone else's body or way of life? You can think it in your head, but the minute you open your mouth it becomes very dangerous, that is of course unless you are opening your mouth to give a compliment, by all means do this. If YOU are happy with the way you look, that's all that matters, and if you aren't, chances are you are doing something about it and working towards something you know you will make you happy.

Everybody is different, and nobody is perfect. It would be a very boring place if this wasn't the case.

 

 

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